“If you don’t like something change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.” – Maya Angelou
Love that! Too often we become comfortable in our complaints. Complaining not only puts us in a negative frame of mind and makes us miserable, but it also moves us backwards and leaves us feeling powerless.
Complaining attracts more complaining and more people that like to complain. The more we are surrounded by complaining, the less time our positive friends spend with us. We need and want those positive friends in our lives. They are the people that push us towards our goals, motivate us, encourage and support us. Pay attention to the people around you, the conversations you are engaged in and gravitate towards the positive.
The more time we spend complaining about a situation, the longer we stay stuck in the situation we are complaining about! Backwards I say! Take action. Even something as simple as stopping the complaint will initiate the change you are seeking. How? The more focus you put on what you are not happy with, the less you are able to see what you are happy with. Try it! Pick something small like a messy closet. Instead of saying “I hate this messy closet” start saying “I love it when my clothes are organized”. Little by little, you will begin to put your laundry away in a more organized manner. One shelf will become organized and soon another. Before you know it your closet will become organized. Because your mindset is focused on the positive aspect of the situation you will help that aspect grow.
As you begin to pay attention to those complaint tendencies, you will be able to take control of the situation faster and make changes. You will become more tuned into what is working and what is not. You will feel more empowered and in control because your reaction will be one that you choose with thought, intention and conscious choice.
Ditch the complainer in you! You DO have a choice, in how you respond, in every situation, in every day. Take control of what is not working for you and change the situation. If that is not possible, choose a positive attitude.
As always, be kind. Laugh until it hurts. And enjoy the positive side of life!